Turning Tables

I encountered a hilarious post yesterday… so hilarious it actually pissed me off instantly😂 It stated: “A man that cannot be manipulated by sex intimidates a woman….because now she must bring something of real value to the table.” Excuse me? And then when I commented that I disagreed, comments started flying in: “… this guy can not be manipulated! He sees through people. He is intelligent”, et cetera, all from women, mind you, and he either has a B.I.G…..personality or wallet. My cringey-laughing-at-my-own-jokes humour aside, I could not get my point across as to why I felt offended. Ikr… shocking, considering it’s social media…

My first irritation with that statement is that a woman can only use sex to manipulate a man. Oh really? It offends and should actually read: Men believe women are sexual objects and can only offer sex, and therefore use it to manipulate men….exposing the entitled mentality of the egotistical male ego, ignoring any other qualities women might have. My second irritation is that we are intimidated when a man cannot be manipulated by sex, as if women are suddenly in a flat spin because now there is no other way to manipulate a man. Personal experience and therefore, my personal opinion is that only gay and impotent men can not be manipulated by sex. And then, of course, that final little stab at attempted sarcasm:”… now she must bring something of real value to the table….” I’m not even gonna say “Excuse me” to this, but just give it an outright “WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK” 

I would love to know what other qualities males perceive to be of value in women… I would love to know what men actually bring to the table, seeing that they got a head start when looking at history…They could vote, study, work etc. way before we could, and as for sexualisation….uhm, well let’s just say that our fucking bathing suits were still being measured less than a century ago, and we were removed from a beach by the police if too much skin was revealed….a law made by geriatric, overweight men in boardrooms full of cigarette smoke. So, seeing that we were not allowed to do fucking anything except spread our legs and push out babies, and showing our smarts by recognising the fear men have of not being able to control themselves when they see too much skin, women had to resort to using what they had. I know… we’re intelligent like that😉

After hundreds of years, things are starting to change and we can now vote, study, work, etc. They are still not equal, and we still have to turn a blind eye to statements like these. I started wondering as to why I’m so upset by a simple little statement on Facebook (I know, always risky when I use some of the grey matter) and realised that in my 46 years of existence, men have not really offered anything at my table, except for a penis. The difference, though?  I actually cannot be manipulated by sex, and since I have my own table, I don’t mind eating alone. The men I’ve had in my life were lucky if they earned a living, and I’m gonna be a bitch (no use in denying my nature🙄) but not one of them was more intelligent, earned more money, had more insight, or was even equal to what I already had at my table. So if my table is already so full, why am I pissed off? I think at my age, I’m tired of the entitled, chauvinistic males out there not bringing anything to the table or even owning or sitting at a table. Maybe I’m fed up with being used for all the things at my table in exchange for mediocre penis. Or maybe my daughter’s boyfriend was right the other day, when he said, “…aunty really does not like anybody, huh?”

My point is (yes, I do have one and it is somewhere in all my rambling) that crap statements like these get generalised until it’s considered true, giving the male toxic ego ample excuses as to why their behaviour is justified, diminishing female value and glorifying one’s worth by just owning a penis. Or maybe I’m just upset, because if men perceive sex as our only quality, then I’m really going to sit alone for a very long time🙄.